Emotional Labor & Street Harassment


I’m tired of street harassment. There is no other way to put it. I’m tired of writing about it, and of talking about it, and especially of talking about it to people who don’t get it and aren’t especially interested in getting it. I’m tired to explaining it to people who are happy to blame […]

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Bystander Effect


Here’s the scene: The camera pans over a neighborhood at dusk. There’s the ice cream/coffee shop, the community garden. There is the neighborhood god, which isn’t a boy making perfect three-pointers in the pocket park, but the Greek god painted on the side of a building in a swirl of blues and purples. There is […]

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[sex object]


There are times I don’t want to put a CW on things, because I know that the folks I most want to see it will probably opt out, because their privilege allows them to do so. And then I think about all my lovely folks I wouldn’t want to hurt by a sudden dump of […]

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Boys Next Door


CW: Sexual Assault. Also, I speak in gender essentialist language in this post; however these types of violences do occur for people who do not identify as women. Earlier this month, I read Jessica Valenti’s piece in The New York Times, “What Does a Lifetime of Leers Do to Us?” In it, she talks about […]

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