Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.” How many of you, if you did something that was hurtful to me, would be willing to say, “I’m sorry. I made a mistake?” How many of you would be willing to say that? Guilt: I’m […]Read more "On Shame and Vulnerability, a reaction to Brene Brown"
Ah, of the many perils of summer, one is the hot car. I regularly walk past a business that reminds people that their cars can get up to 140 degrees — so they shouldn’t leave their children or pets in the hot car (the business encourages them to bring both children and pets in). I’ve heard the […]Read more "On Hot Cars and Mansplaining"
Another long silence from me — I’ve been doing a lot of personal work, and a lot of reading. I’ve been searching in books for a way to better understand myself, and American culture. I’ve been trying to do this while also (still) engaging with the world, both through my work and my volunteering. And, […]Read more "What I’ve Been Reading"