I’m tired of street harassment. There is no other way to put it. I’m tired of writing about it, and of talking about it, and especially of talking about it to people who don’t get it and aren’t especially interested in getting it. I’m tired to explaining it to people who are happy to blame […]Read more "Emotional Labor & Street Harassment"
Here’s the scene: The camera pans over a neighborhood at dusk. There’s the ice cream/coffee shop, the community garden. There is the neighborhood god, which isn’t a boy making perfect three-pointers in the pocket park, but the Greek god painted on the side of a building in a swirl of blues and purples. There is […]Read more "Bystander Effect"
There are times I don’t want to put a CW on things, because I know that the folks I most want to see it will probably opt out, because their privilege allows them to do so. And then I think about all my lovely folks I wouldn’t want to hurt by a sudden dump of […]Read more "[sex object]"
Gaslighting occurs when someone works to undermine someone else’s reality. We can see it happening on a systematic level or on an interpersonal level; we can see it happening unintentionally and unintentionally. But, here’s the thing about gaslighting: it lasts long after you’ve gotten out of the situation. Three years ago, I lived in a […]Read more "Gaslighting, a Bed Time Story"
CW: Sexual assault and harassment. Also, this post contains kinda-not-really spoilers for Ghostbusters. – – – – – Yesterday, a friend and I went to see Ghostbusters. As we were walking from the ticketing booth to our theater, a man started following us. He stood behind us on the escalator, and tried to interrupt our conversation […]Read more "Ghostbusters and Street Harassment:Men, this is on you"